'My wife subscribed to over 15 TV services': Wife steals husband's credit card to pay for streaming, husband retaliates and now marriage is on the rocks

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    Font - AITA for cancelling my wife's TV subscriptions? I don't know if she's trying to play some sort of Pokémon "gotta- catch-'em-all" but for TV subscriptions, but my wife subscribed to over 15 TV services that cost monthly bills without even letting me know beforehand. I found out while checking my account today.
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    Font - I asked her why she needed all these subscriptions, and she said that it's nice to have more variety. I was really upset she decided to go behind my back and purchase all these things, so I cancelled the subscriptions and told her she can watch free stuff instead, and learn to ask me next time before spending my money. She threw a tantrum and called me a jerk. AITA?
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    Font - Edit: Details: 1. wife does no housework, we have a maid 2. wife decided to quit her job despite my wishes two months into marriage 3. we have no children 4. divorce is not feasible in our cultural environment, it can potentially endanger both of our families physically due to religious authorities and extremists present 5. my money is singularly in my account, not joint 6. she looked through my work bag for my cc to get the subscriptions without my knowledge
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    Font - ForeverNugu 14 hr. ago I'm going to go against the grain and say NTA assuming everything you say is true 1. That you guys got married with the expectation that you both would work 2. Your wife quit her job against your wishes 3. Your wife doesn't do chores since you guys have a maid 4. You have no kids 5. You pay for necessities 6. Neither of you is willing to take the risk of divorce coz it's dangerous for you Sounds like you guys are not going to be able to make your marriage work and s
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    Font - reddit-readers-rock 15 hr. ago I'm going to go NTA based on your comments. She doesn't work, look after children or do housework. Does she just watch TV all day? How personally could not do that. 1.9k boring. I Reply Share
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    Font - glawv 14 hr. ago How is anyone here saying he is even slightly an AH??? SHE stole HIS cc. She quit her job after he was trapped to be lazy and feed off of his income. He has every right to tell her she needs to ask before purchasing completely unnecessary things if its his money. Most of the people here saying he's an AH sound like the ones living in mommy's basement for free. 1.2k Reply Share
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    Font - . Key-Competition-8716 8 hr. ago i think ppl are saying AH bc it was a later edit, so they assumed she was a SAHW. like with kids and house work or a part-time job maybe. but clearly thats not the case lol. Reply Share 268
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    Font - murphy2345678 - 15 hr. ago NTA I am only saying this because 1. she went behind your back and took your cc & 2. She stopped working without discussing it with you 2 months after marriage. It sounds like she is taking you for a ride knowing you can't divorce her due to your religion. -before any one bashes me - I am a SAHM since I had my second baby. I am forever grateful that my husband has enabled me to do this and tell him this often. It was a decision we both made while considering all
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    Font - throwawaybibawo OP 14 hr. ago Glad for your family. And I just want to say, since some people think I am apparently a raging misogynist, I think women generally contribute the same if not more labor to their relationships by working outside and inside the home and parenting. I view my marriage as the exception, not the rule. 259 Reply Share
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    Font - Reytotheroxx 14 hr. ago NTA. Fifteen?!? That is absurd. 2- 3 without asking wouldn't be so bad (assuming prices are fair) but fifteen? Ugh. 210 Reply Share
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    Font - CantChangeThisLater0 14 hr. ago The people saying Y T A are beyond stupid. The average subscription is 10$ (assuming your wife picked the basic subscription in everything) that means at minimum she was spending around 150$ monthly on subscriptions alone. that is absolutely absurd. NTA. 152 Reply Share
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    Font - Significant-Dig-8099 · 13 hr. ago NTA. It's crazy to think that if the genders were reversed here everyone would be saying NTA too. Info : my assumption is this might have been an arranged marriage or at the very least your wife did a bait and switch on you?
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    Font - 1. You are proposed to be married with her working full time. 2. Two months after marriage she quits and is no longer contributing to the household financially and is expecting you to support her without consent? 3. And she is refusing to look for new employment elsewhere?
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    Font - 4. She is not doing any housekeeping and you have a maid who works while your wife is at home relaxing? 5. And then she steals your credit card information!! 6. Subscribes to 15 different steaming services for "variety" 7. When called out she threw a tantrum and called you a jerk. This is crazy.
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    Font - I read that you said divorce is not an option. If it really isn't then you have to learn to live with this person. Is she just a freeloader or is she depressed? You should talk to her, tell her how she makes you feel by not working and not keeping the house clean if she isn't working. Why do you need a maid? Even if your wife worked part time it would be better than not at all. Did you ask her why she quit? And did you tell her how she made you feel when she quit? If you aren't communicat
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    Font - HerrAdventure 14 hr. ago NTA. A subscription can happen again. It's not a forever scenario of a one-and-done cancellation. Most often they send a deal to get you back to subscribe. Nobody got hurt. Excpet some feelings on both sides of the parties involved. TV is one of the worst time sucks in existence that dulls humans.
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    Font - It's excessive to have that many IMO and I can understand the variety aspect to an extent. You should have a say in how the money you earn is spent for the household. She had a say without informing you, which is greasy. And she didn't work for it which is double greasy. Let her know that communicating on needs such as subscription for TV service(s) needs to involve you if money is involved since she doesn't add to the pot.
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    Font - A little hard on the approach, a line had to be drawn in the sand though. Setting boundaries is necessary and she crossed an imaginary one that wasn't established yet. Walk it back some if you'd like, she needs to ask/talk for these extra curricular activities.

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